Posted Oct 13, 2015
Tips for Newlyweds Moving Long Distances
Moving to a new home far from your established life is always stressful, but for newlyweds it can be even more so. You are just getting comfortable in your new roles together, and the stress of a move can strain your budding relationship.
But moving to a new apartment can also be a fun adventure and a great way to establish your new life together in a shared space. The way you choose to set up your new space can set the tone for your relationship as a married couple. Follow these tips to keep the honeymoon going as you navigate this tricky stage.
Newlywed packing requires more than just putting all your things into boxes. If you have both been living on your own for a while, it’s likely that you have a lot of your own stuff. You may have acquired even more when you got married and your loved ones showered you with gifts. Now that you’re combining your households you’ll want to take a good look at your belongings and determine what should stay and which things can go.
Get rid of redundant items. Nobody needs two sets of dishes, eight mixing bowls or four waffle irons. If you received multiple gifts of the same thing for your wedding you may be able to return the extra items for cash or store credit.
If you both have a full set of kitchen items, it might be time to decide whose you prefer. Throw away anything that’s really beaten up. Sell what you can online and donate the rest before you begin packing. Paring down to the things you really want and need will make unpacking much more pleasant.
It’s good to get rid of things you don’t need or like, but don’t be too quick to throw out your partner’s stuff. Be respectful of each other’s prized possessions. You may not love his Star Wars figurine collection or the weird sculpture she picked up in Prague, but part of being married is learning to appreciate, or at least tolerate, the things your partner really cares about.
Think about how you can incorporate their things into your new home. Maybe the vintage Jaws movie poster can hang in the bathroom instead of the entryway and the fluffy floral quilt your grandma made can be used for a guest room instead of the marital bed. You’ve chosen to make room for this person in your life, now figure out how to make room for their belongings in your new shared home.
Make a Plan
You’re probably still figuring out who is responsible for what in your household duties and financial responsibilities. You’ll have to do the same for the tasks before a move. A lot of work goes into moving to a new home, and you both want to be sure it all gets done.
Sit down together and make a list of everything that must be accomplished and decide who will be responsible for each item. Include the following tasks on your list, and research to determine whether other work needs to be done as well.
- Research and schedule a moving van.
- Purchase boxes and other supplies.
- Box and label possessions.
- Acquire insurance for your possessions and new home.
- Store valuables and important documents in a secure location.
- Turn utilities off in your old home and on in the new.
- Notify important parties (banks, brokerage firms, employers, credit card and insurance agencies, etc.) of your change of address.
- Register cars if moving to a new state.
- Service cars before the drive.
- Forward medical records.
- Refill prescriptions.
- Measure rooms and furniture to determine where your belongings will go.
- Pack suitcases and boxes with items that will travel with you.
- Clean your new and old homes.
- Confirm moving arrangements.
After the Move
Once you’ve arrived at your new house, the fun can really begin. Work together to determine where your belongings will go and how you want to decorate your new place. Keep in touch with old friends and begin making new ones.
Send moving announcements to your family and friends. Take a picture together in front of your new place and share your good news with the world. Don’t forget to notify the post office of your move as well, so they can forward letters, bills and other items that are sent to your old address.
Be your own welcome wagon. Invite your new neighbors over for a backyard barbecue or pizza and board games. It will be a great way to begin making friends in your new location, and they can also fill you in on the best local restaurants, theaters and events.
Moving can be stressful, but it can also be a great way to start a marriage. You can build your new life together from a clean slate without unnecessary baggage from your former life and home. Attack the project as a team and you’ll be off to a great start in forging a partnership that will last forever.
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About the Author: Bryan Passanisi is an online marketer and blogger living in the Bay Area. When he is not blogging, Bryan enjoys running, reading and watching movies. Bryan is the blog master for Shutterfly.com